Why I Used a Sleep Trainer
It seems an accepted truth that if you have a baby you won’t ever sleep well again. Except that it wasn’t a truth I knew could happen in my life. I knew I wanted children but I also knew that with my husband’s job he needed sleep. I also heard that all babies are different and some are just natural sleepers and some are not. Trying to be proactive I researched as many ideas as I could while pregnant and then I had a helpful friend step in. She told me how her baby had never slept a full night until she contacted a sleep trainer. When I heard that title in my head I envisioned a Captain Von Trapp styled woman coming in with a whistle who forced me to let my baby cry it out, something even pregnant I knew I couldn’t do, but I was so wrong. She was not someone who wanted to take over my home and make it into a boot camp, or even someone who wanted me to transform my view on parenting. On the contrary, she was someone who had spent much of her life working with children and parents in America and Europe and believed that schedules and sleep led to healthy, happy children and well-rested homes. She had dedicated much of her career to helping children and families long term. I left my first meeting feeling empowered and confidant.
Sleep trainers offer a variety of services from helping you set up a schedule, to consultations, to actually staying at your house and helping train in a more hands on way. There isn't a degree or certification so do your homework when looking at different trainers. I used the schedule and consultations from Babyzzzs. I knew what I needed from a schedule, based on my work schedule. She set me up with not only an initial schedule personalized for the age I wished to start but also with a transition schedule from 8-12 weeks when the infant usually goes from eating every 3 hours to every 4 hours. Our son, who is anything but easy going, slept through the night by 6 weeks and even more so by 10 weeks. I also had additional phone and in person consultations as needed when, as with every child, our son changed, went through teething and growth spurts, and just grew.
While every child is different and experiences different things, I think it is important as mothers that we know our options and services available to us. When I first got pregnant I never knew about this and I still find mothers when I mention her that have never heard of them. They are real and they can be wonderful!