To the New Law Enforcement Wife on your first Law Enforcement Memorial Day, You may be a newlywed all in a glow or a veteran wife whose spouse has just become a member of the Law Enforcement in some capacity; either way you are a new Law Enforcement Officer Wife or LEOW. Your spouse may have been an officer for nearly a year or fresh out of the academy. Maybe you don't even know what today is because it is not well publicized by any means. Today is a special day to those in Law Enforcement and their families. Today we remember the fallen. In 1962 President Kennedy declared May 15 as National Law Enforcement Memorial Day and the week in which it falls National Police Week.
In our world as LEOWs you become aware quickly that this life is not for the fainthearted. There is no way to sugar coat it, becoming a Law Enforcement family will highlight the good and the bad about your relationship because you are pushed to the extremes. There is a reason that Law Enforcement has one of the highest divorce rates as a career. But there is also a reason you chose them. There will be hard times but I promise you they will be worth it. It takes a special person to choose this life and they also chose you in return, remember that. There is a reason that you kiss them before each shift knowing full well they may never return. If you haven't dealt with that possibility today may thrust it in your face and that is okay. Today we are faced with the worst reality of our spouses' profession; those who didn't make it home.
You won't find it on calendars or in the news but today is about those men and women who paid the ultimate price to protect and serve the communities they swore an oath to. In our culture it is hard to stand up for their memory. We live in a world where every officer is viewed as corrupt even if the statistics prove that perception wrong time and time again. One in which presidential candidates call all cops racist even though so many are minorities themselves. One where there are those pushing for laws that would require officers to register their private information for public knowledge as though by choosing to protect your community you are also giving up your constitutional rights as a citizen.
In spite of these realities courageous men and women stand up every day and take the oath to protect and serve. On your first Law Enforcement Memorial Day I hope you take a moment to think of those brothers and sisters in blue who paid that price and their families left behind. This National Police Week I encourage you to find something to do to show your spouse and maybe even their shift how much we support them. In our world there will surely be days in which they feel that we are the only ones who do, so never stop.
A fellow LEOW